But I don’t have the money!
Creating Your Own Reality, Law of Attraction, Life, Power of Intention, Spirituality, Success, Thoughts|How many times have we heard this? How many times have we said this ourselves?
“I don’t have the money.” “I can’t afford that.” “There’s no way I could pay for that.”
What a limiting mentality!
I was once told the rich tend not to focus on money. Their focus is on ideas, partnerships, resources and ways to create more wealth. Notice I said, create more wealth, not money.
The difference?
The vast majority of people focus on what they have currently and how much more they perceive they need. A few daydream about what it would be like to have large sums of money, true personal freedom or just freedom from debt — then they go right back to focusing on what they have, or worse, they tell themselves about what they can’t have!
Conversely, the rich seek out and capitalize on ideas. By focusing on creating more wealth, they see opportunities that others might miss. By focusing on creating more wealth instead of only securing or managing what they have, they are more likely to assume some risk. Because every idea they have, risk they take or decision they make will not always work in their favor, they become savvy decision makers, focused on learning from a situation and moving on, more positive and proactive, and much better able to handle change.
Starting to see why they are where they are?
I had a brief exchange with a woman in a local corner store today. In a rather jovial spirit, she waltzed into the store singing the lyrics to a popular song, albeit very poorly. She chuckled at her singing and exclaimed about how wonderful it would be to sing like the original artist who performs the piece.
“What it must be like to sing like that!” she said. “You have to go to singing school for yeaaars to get that good! But we’re poor folk, we don’t have money for no singin’ school!”
Perhaps because she said “we” (and I consciously strive to be careful of what I allow my spirit to believe about myself), I immediately said, “That’s not true, both my kids take private lessons and most schools offer some form of financial aid. We’ve had lessons for $7 a half hour.”
“Really?”, she replied. “But my father…”
At that point, I stopped listening. In that moment, I realized she wasn’t just poor, but associated herself with being poor and thus, unable to have what she wanted due to lack — even if that lack was not really a barrier. She wasn’t just poor, but had a poor mentality. Instead of finding a way to achieve what she wanted, she convinced herself that she couldn’t have it.
Most of us suffer from this on some level. It may not be a “poor” mentality, but a working class mentality, a middle class mentality, a upper middle class mentality… Whatever you happen to be now, whatever your station in life, it is in some way a reflection of your thoughts.
“But Sibbia,” you say, “where I am now does not reflect where I’ll be in a year from now (two years from now, five years from now…)”
Perhaps not, but to know your situation is going to change later, your thoughts have begun that process of changing now. You are creating your future in your mind. It exists in the invisible before you make it so. Over time your thoughts will transition from the idea of things changing at some time in the future, to things changing now and then your situation will begin to reflect that mentality.
Now the million dollar question is:
If you decided your situation had changed/was changing right now… if you created a different mental picture of your current circumstances… if you changed your thoughts right this second…
Would the external begin to change right now as well?
Have faith!
P.S.
One of the most powerful thoughts I’d ever heard was, “You are not given any (righteous) desire, without also being given the means to achieve it.” Now go out and conquer!
December 7th, 2007 at 9:46 am
” You are never given any (righteous ) desire, without also being given the means to achieve it’ This means, you have to work for it! I get a kick out of how so many think it should be easier to have their hearts desire…. Lovely post Sibbia, lovely….
Aren’t we told that anything worth having is worth fighting for? My degree, any spiritual progress, even creating a blog worth reading, take time and effort! I think that mindset is a product of our “more, better, faster!” society. Apparently it’s also too hard to bake a cake from scratch (so I’m told).
December 10th, 2007 at 2:45 am
Faith, moves mountains…yea!
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For some reason that saying always makes me think about someone sitting cross legged in front of a mountain praying and occasionally shaking his fist
I used to have a locket however in which I placed a couple of mustard seeds to remind me how simple the requirement was.
December 10th, 2007 at 4:47 pm
I always want to correct/suggest to people when I hear them say, ‘I can’t afford it’ to RATHER say, I CHOOSE not to at this time. It’s a whole different sense of control.
Hi C! For some reason, your comment needed moderation, strange! Anyway, the “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” book tells us something very similar. I need to read that book again (or another good one on the subject). We could probably all stand to read it once.
December 11th, 2007 at 8:19 pm
Sibbia!
Your site looks great.
Namaste.
S.E.
December 12th, 2007 at 11:19 am
Hey Sibbia - thanks for the post. We all know about the abundance mindset, b ut it’s so hard to keep up. Your reminder is beautiful and very timely.
Cheers,
Albert | UrbanMonk.Net
Modern personal development, entwined with ancient spirituality.
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Greetings, Albert! It really *can* be difficult, but that’s because we don’t make it a long-standing habit. Two weeks or so ago, Philadelphia had its first snow fall. A light dusting coated the ground and more fell from the heavens as I trudged home that night. I started to complain about the undeniable coming of winter when I stopped and smiled remembering the story of a person who decided her favorite season was always the one we’re in. I took a new look at the extremely thin layer of snow, and it was beautiful!! Everything glittered and sparkled like diamonds! I looked up and saw that the snow also twinkled and glittered in the light of the street lamps on the way down.
I threw back my hood and tilted my face upward. Smiling, I allowed myself a moment to revel in the unexpected abundance that was raining down on me.
A brief thought and a new pair of eyes turned the cold that I always hate and complain about, invigorating, and the snow into diamonds.
Now as a perfect ending to the story, I received a surprise check two days ago. It wasn’t a large check, but it was just what I had been thinking I needed. That could have been a coincidence, or due to other work I’ve done at some other time, but since I don’t know, I prefer to think of it as a sign that I’m on the right track.
The point of the story? Such small things can change your life.
December 12th, 2007 at 3:50 pm
Sibbia, I love the new site.
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Thanks SE! And thanks for stopping by. Your comment was caught as spam for some reason, sorry about that.
December 14th, 2007 at 10:54 am
I love this post Sibba, because it is so true. I know that for me it took a lot of hard work, struggle and sacrifice for many years before I became willing to look at the beliefs that drove my behaviors about money and the attainment of it. In the past several months I have begun to do my best to eliminate the factor of money when it comes to what I want in life. The apparent lack mentality tend to shut the door of the imagination and doesn’t allow one to see past the limitation it really is……..
I just like to think back to when I was a little girl..before the concept of money was an idea I would state what I wanted and in some way shape or form I always got what I wanted!
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“before the concept of money was an idea I would state what I wanted and in some way shape or form I always got what I wanted!” Personally, I think that’s just the way to do it! One of today’s big problems is the focusing on the money instead of on the thing(s) desired. Best to figure out what you want and do what you can to bring it about and leave the rest to a higher power.
Thanks for the comment!